Contrast Essay

Contrast Essay
Growing up my brother and myself were two very different individuals. He was always the neat and orderly one, And I was always the messy one. Once we started making more and more friends, our differences in personality became even more evident. Jeff made friends that were struggling to even stay in school at a young age. Then, when they became of age to have their own place, Jeff ended up just getting walked all over by his so called friends. Our biggest differences exhist in discussion, we both disagree with whatever the other has to say, as a way of proving them wrong, and comparing to see who is brighter. We both leave feeling like we won, but should it really be like that? Have we been stuck in the same trend since Kane and Able?

When my parents would come into our shared bedroom, the yelling would start immediately. Telling Jeff how orderly his area was, and how messy I had made the rest of the room. Jeff would keep his bed made every day, while I didn't see much of a purpose in it, since I would just be messing it all up again that very same night. They were childish habits, but I still do not keep my bed made every night, and I am sure that my brother does.

Several of my brothers close childhood friends, did not graduate from high school, yet my brother was on the Honor Roll. This shows parts of his character, how he liked keeping company that he felt superior too, rather than feeling equal too. I did well in school, and zero of my childhood friends dropped out of high school. I believe this shows signs of my character, the company that I chose, and still choose to keep is that of equally hard working individuals. Rather than having my brothers friends rely on just him, my friends and myself are there fore each other in times of need. The relationships are different like that of a Two Way Street, with traffic lights and cross roads, compared to a One Way Dead End, which is in fact a Dead End.

Bickering is the way of discussing anything between the two of us, many of our immediate relatives leave the room whenever Jeff and I get into one of our heated discussions. As young boys we used to just kick the shit out of each other to resolve the debate, but over the years we have gotten much better at approaching the resolution with words, rather than fists. Being the oldest, my brother felt as if he was my second father, which I always felt having one angry dad was enough. Because of this natural feeling my brother had to raise me his way, I always fought off his attempts to lecture me, for the reason being I just didn't want to hear another one of his lectures, he wasn't my father. This caused many brawls between the two of us, brawls of both kinds, with words and actions.

One specific time, my brother was pissed at me for taking his seat on the couch, I felt like I had the floor all night and I wanted to sit on the couch. He felt betrayed by my actions and grabbed my hemp necklace and pulled me off the couch. I proceeded to push him into the fireplace and he fell hard. This pissed him off so much that he ran at me and we ended up crashing through the living room wall. My dad ran into the living room, picked us both up into the air and tore a whole in us like the one in his wall. We deserved it, but how can we get out of this ritualistic fashion of disagreement.

The relationship is steadily getting stronger, the primary reason is for certain that we have been through so much together, and we are family, we both realize this, and it always will make its way to the front of the problem to help solve the matter quicker. We will always clash about the big things in life, it is what we do as brothers, to help light a fire under the other. I hope once we are both where we want to be as fully achieving adults, that we can get over the meaningless bickering that does nothing to benefit anyone. My brother and I both have the skills to be successful in this world, the question is, can we make a difference, or are we going to be stuck bickering about the small things forever? This is the focus that we both need to have, I know I am working on my focus to stay the course, but I do wonder if my brother will be able to get out of this ageless trend of bickering over meaningless disagreements.